How to Write a Maid of Honor Speech

It’s wedding season right now and currently all you maids of honor out there are scrambling to write the perfect toast, compose an amazing speech and basically wow an audiance of people you probably don’t know too wel.. I know how that is, I just went through that. It didn’t matter that I am a writer, I spent hours Googling “How to Write a Maid of Honour Speech” and coming up with links that left something to be desired.

I left statuses up on Facebook asking to read others’ speechs and toasts trying to get a feel for what it is that I wanted to say. I’ve been to only a few weddings in my life time, I’ve never been in a wedding and honestly, I don’t remember anyones’ toasts. (Sorry!) I wanted mine to be memorable, but I knew that it was likely it wouldn’t be memorable to everyone. I was okay with that. And so, without any real response or guidance, ventured on my own to write an awesome toast.

So I’m here to offer my suggestions.

1. Love your Bride to Be. Okay, this might sound like it’s a given, but honestly I know people who were Maids of Honor in weddings they didn’t approve of. (Get out of there, ASAP.) If you don’t love your Bride to Be, if you wouldn’t spend late nights awake wondering what you might say and if you aren’t willing to wake up countless times during the night with random thoughts of words and ideas that must be remembered (And will probably be forgotten) just stop right now.

2. Think about your relationship. This is the most important part. Are you BFF with the Groom? Is your Bride to Be as great as she should be? Are you bitter because she’s a total bridezilla and you pretty much can’t stand her at this point in your life? Do you want to tell everyone about your relationship? Because you should. You should want everyone to know how great/ special/ weird your girl is. And this is where the fun begins.

3. Decide your tone. Are you going for sentimental? Sweet? Are you willing to embarass her or wanting to get back at her for something? This is the second most important part of starting your speech. Decide where you want to go with it.

4. Highlight your relationship and find a way to make it exemplify the Bride to Be as the amazing person/ bitch/ silly girl/ best friend she is to you.

I chose to highlight the strangeness we were as children, and I wanted to build that in a slightly sarcastic way, but I knew that ultimately I wanted to highlight how awesome of a friend she is to me. I also chose to end with a sweet, slightly cheesy note to her Groom that pulled it all together.

5. Start off by introducing yourself. Most of these people don’t know you. Explain to them why you are the Maid of Honor. Make them care. (Example: Shaylin and I have known each other since Kindergarden. When I tell you that, you immediately try to do the math in your head, estimate how long we’ve known each other — going on 21 years — and that instantly makes you care a little more. This is one long friendship, friend!)

6. Don’t ramble on and on. Pick a few points or stories you want to stick with. Revise as many times as possible. Have other people revise for you. Go to your English major friends and ask them to tighten it up for you. Don’t make your toast longer than a page. After that, no one cares.

7. Don’t use inside jokes unless you’re willing to explain the joke in your toast and it’s comnpletely relevant to what it is you’re trying to say. We don’t want to try to figure out what you’re talking about if you aren’t going to put in the effort to tell us. Also, that leaves us out and we are going to most likely tune out after that.

8. Mention the guy, but only if you want to. Some people read my makings of a toast and wondered why I didn’t talk about the Groom more. My reason was because I had nothing specific to say about him that added to my point. At least, not until the parts when I did mention him. And besides, this is my toast but I’m representing the Bride to Be. If you don’t talk about her in your toast… there’s reason to be concerned.

9. Bring it all together nicely. This is hard to do. I spent three days panicking trying to figure out how to end my toast. I knew where I wanted to go with it, but I didn’t know how to get there. Try taking a lot of showers. That’s where my last few sentences just popped into my head.

10. Have fun with it. If you don’t have fun, your audiance will know.

Have any more suggestions? Please share!

If you want to read my toast, head on over to right here.

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3 thoughts on “How to Write a Maid of Honor Speech

  1. Being an amazing person, the best MOH in the history of the world, and the best friend in the history of friendships also helps. At least those things made yours extra special and wonderful and perfect. And you made me cry…just saying…

  2. I love this post! I am going to link to it next time I do a Link Dump post if that is okay? It’s very helpful and if I ever have to write one of these speeches (probably not) I will definitely refer back here to you. Shaylin is very lucky to have you!

  3. Pingback: Link Dump – June 13th, 2011 | Star Stuff

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